I have a terrible habit of being a bit of a people pleaser.
In the past I would do anything I could to make people like me… I would fit whatever mould they needed me to, change my beliefs to fit theirs, essentially pretended to be someone I wasn’t… it was not good at all. If someone found me annoying or didn’t want to be friends with me it really got to me and I managed to convince myself that I was the problem.
However, after 19 (long) years and 7 different stints as “the new girl”, I’ve finally come to realise that in life, not everybody is going to like you. The truth is, I’d be lying if I said I liked everybody I’ve ever met, everyone would; at the end of the day we all have different personalities, and it’s only natural that some personalities are going to clash. As long as you have at least some people in your life that you know genuinely like you for you, it doesn’t matter. Not everybody that you meet is meant to be a lifelong friend, and sometimes you have to filter through the coal to find the diamonds.
You see, I’ve had my fair share of friendships that I’ve forced that were probably not the most healthy to be in (read more about one of those here) and every time I was heartbroken when they ended (yes, friendships can break your heart too). However, looking back on each of them, and seeing those people hanging out now, I realise that if I were still with those people, I wouldn’t be having fun. I should be with people that make me feel comfortable… and it took me a long time to realise it, but you can’t force people to like you, and you can’t force yourself to like other people.
If you find yourself changing everything about you in order to fit in, or having to force your way into every group hang, then maybe it’s time to let go. People that genuinely want you around will make an effort to invite you to things and will accept you, flaws and all, and sometimes the only way to find the good is to let go of the bad, no matter how hard that may be. In your lifetime you will come across so many different faces that it will be impossible to keep count, the same way it would be impossible for you to get along with every single one of them on a genuine level. Pick quality over quantity, and if people don’t like you, let them go.
How do you overcome people not liking you? Leave your own stories/opinions in the comments!
Lots of love,
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Hey, I'm Jasmine Burke. A girl in her twenties fresh out of Uni that's trying to write in any way that she can. I go under the branch of "lifestyle" but honestly, you can find pretty much anything on here.
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