Life's Too Short to be Salty

Life's Too Short to be Salty

It’s easy to hold a grudge.  It’s easy to fall out with a person, or have a disagreement and decide that you will never forget and be angry with them for the rest of your life.  I used to think exactly this, and I used to never let anything go, but recently I’ve really got to thinking about it, and honestly life is too short for those kind of grudges.
Don’t get me wrong, if someone is horrible to you or disrespects you, I’m not saying you have to pretend it never happened, and I’m not saying you have to keep them in your life.  People can be horrible sometimes, and often, we don’t deserve the way that people treat us, but why should you waste your energy on someone that doesn’t deserve any of it at all?  Be angry at the time – you’re entitled to expressing your emotions as much as you want, but the sooner you can stop being angry about it, the sooner you can achieve closure for your own sake.  You deserve to be happy as much as possible, and dropping your anger over a situation will help you achieve that.  
Obviously we’re all human, and we sometimes occasionally have flashes of bitterness over something that happened ages ago (funny story, I haven’t eaten a lentil since I was 8 years old and missed out on 100% on a test because I put lentils in the wrong food group).  But the less we can stop those things from affecting our mood, the happier we’ll be in the long run.  Yeah, I could actively dislike every single person that I perceive to have wronged me, and yeah, I could make it my mission in life to scrutinise everything they do from now on… But in retrospect what joy would I get out of that?  Some people are toxic and aren’t meant to be in your life forever, but you know what’s better than actively hating them for it?  Removing yourself from the situation.
People tend to perceive “cutting people off” as this horrible, selfish, act but sometimes it’s an act of self-care, and not intended to be malicious.  If someone is bringing nothing but negativity to your life then it’s okay to remove them from your life in order to better your overall happiness.  Life is really too short to constantly be salty about a person… As far as I’m concerned, if we fall out, you’re either eventually forgiven, or no longer relevant.  That doesn’t mean I’ll stare straight through you if I see you in the street; I’ll probably smile/acknowledge you still because that’s the kind of person I am, but I won’t make a massive effort.  It’s not an attempt to be mean, and it’s not me trying to get you to fight to stay in; it’s me taking a step back and realising that we’re not doing each other any good staying in contact.
Obviously not all fall-outs need to end in cutting someone off.  Everybody makes mistakes and sometimes you’ll fall out with people temporarily, and eventually get back together.  This isn’t a post encouraging you to cut everyone out of your life, just a post explaining why (I personally think) life is way too short to waste your (angry) energy on a person that doesn’t deserve anything from you.  
What are your opinions on the matter?  Do you agree?  Do you disagree?  I’d love to have some healthy debate in the comments or hear your own personal experiences!
Lots of love,
Jas xx
 
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6 Comments

  1. October 2, 2017 / 11:49 am

    I completely agree with what you’re saying! Life is too short to be wasting your energy and emotions on people who may not value you at the slightest, as sad as that might be..I definitely believe that staying angry and embittered at someone over something petty is not worth it and sometimes the mature thing to do is just to apologise and move on, yet at other times it is better to cut truly toxic people out of your life completely. Great post! xox

    • October 2, 2017 / 1:44 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m glad you agree, it’s so much easier to just move on!
      Jas xx

  2. josypheen
    October 2, 2017 / 5:13 pm

    I’ve never cut anyone off like this (mostly because I have been lucky and genuinely love my friends…I’ve been pissed off with people, but then I’ve always made up again later…)
    BUT one of my closest university friends cut me out of her life completely a few years ago. It still really hurts that she felt that I am so toxic that she never wants to speak to me again. It sounds like she did the same thing with almost everyone we know in common, but it still makes me really sad. I really hope she is okay and that she has found good mates to replace us all and support her. 🙁

    • October 2, 2017 / 5:20 pm

      That’s so horrible not even knowing what happened, I hope she’s okay too!
      As for you, it’s so hard to achieve closure when you don’t even know what happened, I’ve been there. Work on finding it within yourself and try not to guess what YOU did wrong!
      Jas xx

  3. October 17, 2017 / 9:15 pm

    Couldn’t agree anymore with you than I do write now. this post most definitely belongs in your most proud posts!
    Lovely & well written, thank you 💕

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