Changing Attitudes to Photos

Changing Attitudes to Photos

During my first year of University I flooded my social media with photos; I think I had an album of over 200 pictures with countless selfies and nights out and every little thing that happened… However this year I got to University and the posts decreased drastically. 

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I tried so hard to be what I thought people wanted to see

Don’t get me wrong, if anything I’m having so much more fun this year than I did last year, but I’ve been so wrapped up in it that I haven’t wanted to spend my time taking selfies or posing for pictures, and my social media has been a lot less active than it had been in a while.  I was still posting on my blog Instagram (Which you can find here) a lot because I had things to post blogwise, but my personal Instagram and Facebook photo uploads became a lot less frequent because I was too busy basking in the moments.  
It felt like, for the first year of University, I had to prove to people that I was having a good time, and make sure I was frequently posting selfies and outfits and showing myself looking “cool”.  However, this year I’m so much more content within myself and I don’t have anything to prove anymore, I know that I’m having fun.
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I started coming into myself more and posting me being weird with friends

I felt the same way in the summer… Even though I posted a lot, because I was posting with such a different attitude. I had spent my time trying new things and going on new adventures and I took hundreds of pictures and captured every memory I could.  I posted them proudly on social media and reminisced, remembering the tastes and smells and feelings every time I saw them.  I didn’t need to prove that I was having fun, but I wanted to show off the moments that meant so much to me, and honestly it was a lot healthier for me. 
You can see the progression of the attitude towards posting when you actually take a look at my feed; they move slowly from the closed mouth, serious-faced, “try-hard” photos of me trying to be what I thought people wanted to see, to the happy smiling photos, showing me goofing off with my friends and having fun.  I don’t care as much about likes anymore, because I like the photos and that’s all that matters to me now, and I feel like my photos are actually doing better because of it.  I may not post as often or with the same “cool” attitude as I did before, but I feel a lot more comfortable about my Instagram presence.  
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Finally happy enough within myself to not care about the likes

Social media doesn’t have to be the bad, “poisonous” thing that it’s made out to be in the media, nor does it have to be the perfect thing everyone tries to live up to nowadays.  I use mine as a snapshot of some of my happy moments with my favourite friends and moments that mattered to me.  I can scroll back through it and remember how I was feeling and what is important to me, and whether they get high engagement or not, I’m happy I posted them.  I’m probably at the healthiest I’ve ever been with my attitude to social media and honestly it makes it so much more rewarding.  If I post 5 times a week, so be it, and if I don’t post at all for a month that’s okay too.  I’m enjoying getting back to using it for fun, and not to prove that I’m having fun. It’s honestly making me a better version of myself.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that others should post like that too – there’s nothing wrong with a club photo or a strategically posed, duck-faced selfie… I’ll probably still post them from time to time if they’re where I’m having the most fun.  However, I found myself eventually posting them for the sake of it, instead of because that was where I was at my happiest.  I used to think I needed the likes and the comments to bring me happiness, but I’ve realised that when you post a photo you’re truly happy with, the likes don’t matter half as much.  It may have taken me a while to get here, but I’m so glad that I did.
This may have been a bit rambly – my more personal posts tend to end up that way, just finally clarified how I feel regarding social media and felt like I should post about it.  What’s your relationship with social media like?  Let me know in the comments!
Lots of love,
Jas xx
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  1. Corinne and Kirsty
    December 22, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    I always feel like I don’t look good enough for Instagram. Like I am not a natural, i can’t strike that post or give a colgate smile. but i am learning to create my own style there. It can be quite hard at time when you perfect people there! xx corinne

    • December 22, 2017 / 8:36 pm

      I feel the same – I’ve never been amazing at having a “perfect social media image” so now I’ve stopped trying to get them that way. Instead, I just focus on me.
      Jas xx

  2. Lily
    December 22, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    I have a love- hate relationship with Instagram, and so I took a little break from it. Starting next year I’ll be tackling it in a whole new way with a new attitude as well!! 🙂 Thanks for sharing Jasmine!

    • December 22, 2017 / 8:39 pm

      Sometimes a break is all you need! Good luck with your new Instagram attitude!
      Jas xx

  3. December 22, 2017 / 8:53 pm

    I think this is a really important post – I’ve certainly felt pressure to try and show people online that I’ve had a good time or whatever and it’s just not healthy is it? I’m trying not to do that as much now and only posting what I genuinely want to post xxx

    • December 22, 2017 / 8:55 pm

      Awwww thank you! It really isn’t when you think about it, but it’s a habit I feel like we’ve all gotten into over time. Honestly I’m having a lot more fun just posting what I want to!
      Jas xx

  4. December 22, 2017 / 8:55 pm

    I think in some ways social media can be really toxic but I think if you have the right mindset about your own posts aswell as other peoples posts that it can be fine 🙂 everyone needs to realise that people only post online what they want others to see and that everyone has their own problems, NO ONES life is perfect so don’t let it get you down if someone else life seems perfect!
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

    • December 22, 2017 / 8:56 pm

      I agree with everything you said! It’s all about how you use it and honestly you really have to take it all with a pinch of salt!
      Jas xx

  5. Hello Bexa
    December 22, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    This is a really important post and you have great positive attitude, I love it 💕. Social media can get overwhelming at times when we feel the constant pressure to look good and show everyone what we have been up too. Since blogging, I’ve hardly used Facebook and I don’t miss it one bit ☺️. Great post, thank you for sharing 😘 xx
    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:04 pm

      Awww thank you, I’m glad you enjoyed it! It can be so hard to keep up with the pressures of social media!
      Jas xx

  6. December 22, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    I’ve actually been trying to take a little time off Instagram for Christmas and the holiday season. I find social media a little bit stressful at times so, especially when it gets to the busiest time of the year, I’ve actually been finding this break really beneficial. I could relate to a lot of what you were saying. I want my Instagram to be a photo album of my favourite, happiest moments without the pressure or stress. Great post!

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:06 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m really glad you can relate – breaks from social media can be very important!
      Jas xx

  7. December 22, 2017 / 9:03 pm

    It’s hard to live up to the Instalife, I’m so glad you are feeling happier and confident. I get a little closer to that each day, it’s all a work in progress but your thoughts are inspiring – thanks!

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:06 pm

      Thank you so much! It’s really hard to live up to, but I’m finally starting to get my head in a better place when it comes to Instagram!
      Jas xx

  8. December 22, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    I absolutely love this! I also have a somewhat love/hate relationship with social media and especially Instagram. Going from posting almost every day to radio silence for months. Although I’ve never really cared or thought about what I posted in terms of ‘engagement’, I think indeed that the most important engagement you can get is your own. As you said, it’s very nice to think of it as a ‘snapshot of some of my happy moments’ instead of you trying to portray something you’re not (although that is fine too as long as you are doing it not because you feel you need to but because you want to). Thank you for this post, very inspiring!
    Love,
    Dominique
    http://www.fashionedbypluche.blogspot.com

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:08 pm

      Awww I’m so glad you found it inspiring! It’s really so much better to think of as a snapshot of happy memories, it’s made the whole experience more enjoyable for me!
      Jas xx

  9. December 22, 2017 / 9:16 pm

    This is such a great attitude to have, I think it’s so easy to base your self-worth and confidence on social media interaction, and to get dragged into living through social media instead of enjoying real life! So I’m so happy that you wrote this post – social media should be fun and it’s a great way to document real, good memories x😘

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:20 pm

      Thank you, and honestly it’s so easy! I’m working on making sure there’s a difference between real life and social media!
      Jas xx

  10. December 22, 2017 / 9:46 pm

    I have such a love hate relationship with social media. I used to post a lot too. Then i deleted my fb. Now that i am blogging i have found that fb is important for networking. But i still post on IG.

    • December 22, 2017 / 9:49 pm

      It can be so hard to find balance, but I’m getting there and it sounds like you are too!
      Jas xx

  11. December 23, 2017 / 12:03 am

    I love this post! I have mixed feelings about posting on Instagram, partly because I want to show people I’m having a good time, but also because I love photography and genuinely love sharing my pictures just for fun! It’s good to bask in the moments and take a break from social media sometimes 🙂
    amerzwithlove.com

    • December 23, 2017 / 12:09 am

      Yeah, I feel like as long as you’re posting for you it’s fine!
      Jas xx

  12. December 23, 2017 / 8:24 pm

    Awww, Jas, what a beautiful post! I commend you on your growth. I have gone through a change myself recently. I realized that I was living to enjoy the experience, but living to determine the next picture worthy moment for social media. Then, I was constantly refreshing to see if people agreed that I was living a great life. How silly! The pictures didn’t really represent what I was feeling in the moment. And I missed some of the best moments while trying to pose for the camera and come up with the words for a great post. The euphoria of “likes” were fleeting. Couldn’t even enjoy them because I was thinking about the next picture for the next round of likes.
    Thanks for sharing your story on this…and enjoy smelling those flowers and living in the moment.

    • December 23, 2017 / 9:01 pm

      Awww I completely relate to that feeling, it’s very easy to get into that mentality nowadays. It’s a good thing you realised and are changing it though – good luck living in the moment!
      Jas xx

  13. December 25, 2017 / 1:38 am

    I wish more people didn’t care about likes. If we all just posted photos that we liked, then there would be a much more positive community online!
    Aleeha xXx
    http://www.halesaaw.co.uk/

    • January 5, 2018 / 10:03 pm

      I agree! Let’s hope that we can get there someday!
      Jas xx

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