There are many things in the world that confuse me, and leave me asking a bunch of questions. I don’t have any answers, because I’m obviously not the be all end all in life. However, I still want to talk about them, because who doesn’t love a good rant from time to time? Therefore, I’m starting a new series: 400 word rants, in which I air my frustrations in 400 words or less… (FYI this little intro doesn’t count)
Topic of today: Why isn’t smiling sexy?
“Sex sells” sounds like a really sleezy and outdated phrase, but at the end of the day it still holds some truth. We are definitely better at accepting different standards of beauty, and I’m not saying in anyway that we only like things that are sexy, but I still find that photos of me in bikinis/shorter outfits get more and quicker likes than any of my other posts. I’m not necessarily saying that this is a problem, and I am the first one to fight for people doing what they want to do (As long as it isn’t hurting someone), but lately I’ve really been thinking about what we class as “sexy”, and there’s one thing in particular that baffles me…
Whenever you see “sexy” poses in magazines or on Instagram, the consesus seems to be that a girl’s gotta pout… Don’t get me wrong, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with pouting, and I’m never gonna be one to tear a girl down for how she wants to be sexy, but sometimes it confuses me as to why we’ve decided that that’s what sexy is. Why is pouting, looking angry and dissapointed the thing we’ve decided is a turn on?
It’s noone’s fault; it’s what we’ve been conditioned to deem sexy, but I just don’t understand why? Is it the idea of forbidden fruit and unnattainability? It is the excitement of the chase? Or have we simply decided that if somebody is happy then they clearly can’t be any sort of sexual being? I love smiling. I’ve had too many periods where I’ve been nothing but sad, so happiness is something that I want to celebrate. This isn’t about me trying to convince you that my smiles should be deemed sexy, because I have accepted that I’m not exactly a “sexy” girl, but I simply don’t understand the attraction to moodiness.
But maybe that’s just me…
And there you have it! The first of my 400 word rants! Let me know what you thought, whether you agree or disagree, and leave any topics you’d like me to touch on in the comments!
Lots of love,