It’s Okay to Unfollow | 400 Word Rant

It’s Okay to Unfollow | 400 Word Rant

Maybe it’s because I’m sick, maybe it’s because I have deep surpressed anger, or maybe it’s because it’s been on my mind…  Whatever the reason, I’m back with another rant in my 400 words rants series.  As always, I voice my opinion on a topic of my choice in 400 words or less, so here we go!

 

Topic of Today: It’s Okay to Unfollow People

Words: 309

With social media taking over, unfollowing, unfriending and blocking people have become the digital middle finger.  In some situations I completely see why.  However, unfollowing is not always the horrible thing people make it out to be.

A while ago, I looked through somebody’s Instagram and realised that I wasn’t really a fan.  To me, it was too much of the same, and wasn’t my cup of tea.  I’d followed them for about 4/5 months, never really interacted, and didn’t want their content on my feed anymore.  To me, the logical response was to unfollow.  Next thing I know, I received a message: “I’m blocking you for playing the follow/unfollow game”.  How does unfollowing after 4/5 months mean that I’m playing a game?

Don’t get me wrong, those follow/unfollow accounts exist, and are annoying.  They have 10,000 followers, follow 5 people and immediately unfollow you when you follow back, in the hopes that you won’t notice.  I’ve had one particular account do it to me 3 times in one week.  However, this is in no way the same thing as unfollowing someone because you no longer agree with their content.

At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself and your own wellbeing.  If you’re triggered, bored, or simply don’t like someones content, you shouldn’t be blamed for distancing yourself from it!  Unfollowing/blocking/unfriending is not always done maliciously.  We need to stop associating all of it with bitterness.  I used to be terrified that unfollowing someone would get me labelled “fake”, but honestly, if it did, that would be so stupid.  I do believe that some people unfollow for the wrong reasons, but the majority don’t and we need to back off with the blaming.

Don’t like someone?  Unfollow.  Don’t like their content?  Unfollow.  Don’t let everyone convince you it’s a mean thing to do.

 

What are your thoughts when it comes to unfollowing?  Let me know in the comments, I’d love to discuss it!

Lots of love,

Jas xx

 

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  1. August 26, 2018 / 4:13 pm

    I’ve been doing this recently on my instagram. Luckily i haven’t had the im gonna blocknyounmessages but people do get rather funny about it.

    lovehayleybeth.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:32 pm

      Yeah, I’ve dounf that people can be funny about it!

      Jas xx

  2. August 26, 2018 / 4:36 pm

    First of all, I love the idea of 400 word rants!
    On the topic, I agree that unfollowing is normal and shouldn’t be seen as such a bad thing. People’s interests change, and no one should be forced to see content they don’t care about on their social media. I think the idea of follow-for-follow and this importance on numbers plays a part in this whole concept, but it is what it is.
    You also compared unfollowing/blocking to the middle finger, and I don’t think unfollowing is the digital version of that is, but blocking sure can be. Blocking is going a step further to ensure you never see this person online, and it’s such a weird extreme for something as simple as ‘I’m no longer interested in your content’. I’ve only blocked a handful of accounts, mostly spam.
    Great post!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:34 pm

      Awww I’m so glad that you like the idea, it’s slowly becoming my favourite series! I do think that the follow-for-follow mentality has a lot to do with peoples beliefs when it comes to unfollowing! Also, I agree, blocking sure is that extra step! I’ve only really blocked spammers, and that girl who I said had followed and unfollowed me 3 times in one week lol

      Jas xx

  3. August 26, 2018 / 4:37 pm

    I agree with what you said. I do believe that there’s nothing wrong in unfollowing if you no longer are interested in the content they are providing. It’s something I would do (and have done to people who post offensive things), and if someone does that to me because they lost interest, I’ll be fine. I try not to make social media numbers a big deal. My content should reach the interested people, even if there are only 10 genuinely interested people. 🙂

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:36 pm

      Exactly! Its all about reaching the right kind of people!

      Jas xx

  4. August 26, 2018 / 7:04 pm

    I agree it’s totally ok to unfollow people. Lately i’ve been seeing a lot of negative content on twitter from bloggers or even people tweeting stuff i dont agree with and i just unfollow. I don’t have to feel guilty because i dont owe anyone a follow!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:38 pm

      Exactly, you shouldn’t have to feel guilty! There’s absolutely nothing wrong with unfollowing people if their content doesn’t appeal to you anymore, doesn’t mean that you’re playing a game!

      Jas xx

  5. August 26, 2018 / 7:07 pm

    Yes girl, I totally agree! People put too much pressure on social media following a lot of the time, I think it’s partly because of the importance we’ve put on building an online following. Personally I think it’s really healthy to reduce the amount of accounts you follow, it keeps things fresh.

    Megan // https://pixieskiesblog.wordpress.com/

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:39 pm

      Glad you agree! It’s definitely healthy to reduce the amount of accounts you follow, and I feel that the occasional sort through your following is necessary!

      Jas xx

  6. August 26, 2018 / 7:56 pm

    I 100% agree with you on this post! I feel like it’s completely acceptable to unfollow when you’re uninterested in the content. I don’t think it should be taken as a bad thing.

    Charlotte // http://fadingtulips.blogspot.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 7:58 pm

      Thank you! We’re all entitled to decide what we do and don’t want to see on social media!

      Jas xx

  7. August 26, 2018 / 8:07 pm

    Totally agree! I go through my Insta more regularly now and unfollow people I have no interest in, so much nicer to have the people I want to see on my feed who motivate me! ✨ xxx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:09 pm

      Exactly, especially with Instagrams algorithm not showing you everyones posts, it’s vital that your feed is only full of posts that motivate you!

      Jas xx

  8. August 26, 2018 / 8:09 pm

    I recently unfollowed loads of people on Instagram! I think I went from following 400 people down to just 50 accounts whose contest I actually enjoyed and intereacted with. Now i’m slowing building it back up with fellow bloggers and accounts that post pictures I like seeing. I keep meaning to do the same on other social media accounts also! Thank you for sharing.

    Jess || http://www.secretdiaryofjess.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:14 pm

      Sometimes it’s definitely needed! Feeds can become tiresome/uninspired and it’s nice to clear them out!

      Jas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk

  9. August 26, 2018 / 8:14 pm

    You’re so right! There’s no reason to be ashamed of unfollowing someone. I really needed to hear this. I try to only follow people who’s content I really enjoy and can relate to however I can sometimes misinterpret that and then I don’t know what to do. Unfollowing people is completely okay. You’ve shown me that now.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:15 pm

      Awww I’m so glad that this was helpful!

      Jas xx

  10. August 26, 2018 / 8:15 pm

    It is okay to unfollow people – even when they’re indirectly causing inconvenience to you (e.g. floooOOOOOooding your feed with useless stuff). Ugh, hate it when people play the follow/unfollow game @__@. But you’re right! At the end of the day, your wellbeing matters more. I’ve stopped interactions with others because our views didn’t align. Thanks for sharing your thoughts :).

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:22 pm

      I hate the follow/unfollow game so much too! It’s annoying more than anything else, and it surprises me that they don’t think that people will catch on!

      Jas xx

  11. abbiejadewanders
    August 26, 2018 / 8:19 pm

    Yes to this! You should never feel guilty for unfollowing accounts!

    Thankyou for sharing 🙂

    abbiejadewanders.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:28 pm

      Thank you for reading!

      Jas xx

  12. August 26, 2018 / 8:20 pm

    I couldn’t agree more with this post. I like following people that inspire me and if i’m not feeling your feed anymore, I probably would unfollow. That doesn’t mean that i’m playing the follow/unfollow game.

    Bukola Veronica,
    http://www.bukolaveronica.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:28 pm

      Exactly! The follow/unfollow game and unfollowing because you’re no longer inspired are two very different things!

      Jas xx

  13. August 26, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    I totally understand this post! I have been trying to grow my social media’s for a while but there are a few people that I didn’t realise I followed or that I just don’t really like what I post so I do unfollow as well, I don’t think it’s always the follow/unfollow game! Great post x

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:33 pm

      Thank you, I’m glad you could relate!

      Jas xx

  14. August 26, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    Totally agree. Even using the mute feature that most socials have now makes a huge difference. If it doesn’t bring you joy / make you feel inspired what’s the point!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 8:37 pm

      Exactly! More joy and less unecessary content!

      Jas xx

  15. Roxie Watt
    August 26, 2018 / 9:00 pm

    I’ve unfollowed a lot of accounts recently so my feed is less cluttered and more inspiring. I’m more likely to engage now with photos and it’s definitely improved my enjoyment of actually using the app.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 9:01 pm

      Exactly! It makes things better for you!

      Jas xx

  16. August 26, 2018 / 9:01 pm

    I completely agree with everything you have just said. If I have been following someone and find that their feed is ok longer relatable to me or I’m just not interested anymore I will unfollow them.

    AbigailTalksAbout.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 9:03 pm

      Glad you agree!

      Jas xx

  17. August 26, 2018 / 9:08 pm

    I totally agree! I have never received a message about me changing my mind on liking a profile but, everyone should be free to change there mind as long as it’s not every five seconds

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 9:09 pm

      Exactly!

      Jas xx

  18. August 26, 2018 / 9:08 pm

    I’m in desperate need of doing this but I feel too mean doing so because of that reason! I don’t want to start any feuds or be labelled as unsupportive. It’s so difficult but I’d much rather see content on my feed that I really like and will interact with instead of it being clogged with things that I just scroll past. A while back I saw someone tweet something really ignorant about mental health and how people should deal with grief and it made me angry to the point of unfollowing and ever since that person has followed and unfollowed me so many times just to get my attention but I just can’t follow her after seeing the horrible comments she made! It does make me sad though when I see that someone I have interacted with a lot has unfollowed me as I always wonder what I’ve done to put them off of my content!
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 28, 2018 / 6:25 pm

      Yeah, I was so scared of doing it for so long because I thought it would start a fued and that’s not what I wanted! However, it came to the point where I had to scroll for ages to find content I actually liked and engaged with. You’ve always got to do what’s best for you!

      Jas xx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 9:24 pm

      Honestly! There’s no problem!

      Jas xx

  19. August 26, 2018 / 9:33 pm

    I used to follow back everyone who’d follow me, and therefore expected to everyone follow me back. Then I was really angry at those follow/unfollow accounts. However, these days I’m in a different state of mind. I’d rather have people who follow me for my content then just so they could have one more follower. Also, I stopped following people who always tweet negative and pessimistic thoughts. I rather have positive and well behaved people on my news feed. I also don’t have problem unfollowing people who are racist or rude. Today I unfollowed one writer who’s racist tweets made me really uncomfortable.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 9:35 pm

      Yeah, I was the same way when I first started! I’d say that we’re both in better mindsets now!

      Jas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk

  20. August 26, 2018 / 9:55 pm

    Definitely ok to unfollow. Social media is not meant to be a chore. If you are not happy with who you connect with then it becomes a horrible place to be.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 28, 2018 / 6:12 pm

      Exactly! Social media can become an unlikeable place so quickly if you’re not careful!

      Jas xx

  21. August 26, 2018 / 10:09 pm

    I absolutely love these 400 word posts. The unfollow button is something I used to be afraid of using until I realised that I don’t owe anyone anything. If something upsets me, annoys me or just doesn’t interest me anymore then I am more than entitled to press that unfollow button with no remorse.

    Louisa | http://www.loubeeloublogs.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 26, 2018 / 10:11 pm

      Awww thank you, I’m glad you like them as they’re slowly becoming my favourite series! Exactly, you don’t owe anyone a follow, and you are entitled to press the button whenever you need to! I also used to be afraid of it!

      Jas xx

  22. August 26, 2018 / 10:16 pm

    I have never agreed to a post as much as this one! I completely agree with you, it’s ok to unfollow people. I’ve had lots of people come at me for unfollowing them!

  23. August 26, 2018 / 11:12 pm

    Okay, I always feel guilty. Always. If I want to unfollow for no reason other than i don’t find your feed interesting, I feel bad about it. I know I shouldn’t, but I do. I feel bad for the person who I would be unfollowing, It’s so dumb. I wouldn’t want people following me if they didn’t like my content…I need to get better at this!! x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:04 pm

      Sophie I used to feel guilty all the time too! Especially in the blogging community there’s a lot of callout culture with unfollowing and I was so scared. However, the more I think about it, the more I realise there’s no need to be scared. It’s natural and we all change what we want to see!

      Jas xx

  24. CherishingFlo
    August 26, 2018 / 11:12 pm

    IM SO GLAD SOMEBODY SAID THAT. Cause I’ll follow a person in a HEARTBEAT if I feel they are giving negative vibes or they just don’t interest me. I’ve had people inbox me and go OFF claiming I’m not genuine and that I have a big head because I have a lot of supporters and I’m like if you follow me, I’d like it to be because you like my content because if I follow you it will ONLY be because I like your content. DASSIT. I don’t follow people to unfollow them but sometimes I follow people blindly without paying attention and then I see things I don’t like on my feed. Other times a persons feed will start sending different vibes and I’m not wit it. But that doesn’t make me fake. If anything it makes us more REAL because we are only allowing what we like onto our feed! Mannnn lol a couple months ago this kind of stuff had me venting for hours to my boyfriend. Cause the same happens to me on Twitter also.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:07 pm

      I’m so glad you agree! I really don’t understand why it’s such a big deal! If people don’t like my content and aren’t engaging with it, I wouldn’t expect them to follow me, so why do they expect the same from me? Ugh, it’s weird and annoying behaviour…

      Jas xx

  25. August 27, 2018 / 3:41 am

    Great post. I actually had 2 situations today that can lead to the eventual unfollow. Getting a new follower sometimes makes me interested in who the person is and whether they have content I’d like to follow. Unfortunately, both profiles were private, so I had no idea what I’d be subjecting myself to if I followed them simply because they followed me. I opted not to follow.

    In any case, I didn’t know that people checked to see who unfollowed them, but we all need to do what we feel is appropriate for us. Sometimes my feed gets a bit clogged by stuff I am no longer interested in–even though I may have been 6 months ago…or that one night I’d had too much to drink. We shouldn’t feel bad for growth, change, or simply not being interested.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:07 pm

      Exactly! Thanks so much for the comment <3

      Jas xx

  26. August 27, 2018 / 9:52 am

    I LOVE this post and find it disgusting that people are actually so manipulative as to accuse anyone of the unfollow game even after so long of following them! It’s absolutely okay to unfollow- peoples feeds change all the time and if they’ve gone in a direction that doesn’t interest you then you shouldn’t feel an obligation to keep following!

    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:09 pm

      Thank you, I’m so glad you liked it! Exactly, following shouldn’t be an obligation!

      Jas xx

  27. August 27, 2018 / 10:00 am

    I absolutely HATE when big accounts follow you so you follow them back and then unfollow you if you do. I’ve never followed them back because I just know their game. I find it so silly and annoying, never thought of actually blocking them. Might start doing that!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:12 pm

      I don’t understand how they think they’ll get away with it? I literally had an account follow and unfollow me 3 times in one week? I probably wouldn’t have noticed if they hadn’t kept refollowing me…

      Jas xx

  28. August 27, 2018 / 5:12 pm

    First off! I love the 400 words or less rants! That’s such a good idea because when I rant on my blog, I kid you not, it goes on for forever (no joke, look at my latest rant at letsbebreef.com/blog/shame). I may have to save my readers some time and start making a word limit for my rants too.

    Secondly, the unfollow/follow thing is weird for me. I don’t get how people think so much of themselves to sit and work to increase their social media followers by unfollowing people later but, hey, insecurities rear their ugly heads in many ways.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:15 pm

      Haha I was exactly the same – I could rant for pages and pages and pages! I felt that the 400 words or less would condense them a little haha. Also, I find the follow/unfollow thing so weird too!

      Jas xx

  29. August 27, 2018 / 6:03 pm

    Nothing to add. Amen to your post, I totally agree👍🏻

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:15 pm

      I’m glad you agree!

      Jas xx

  30. August 27, 2018 / 8:09 pm

    I love this and completely agree! I’ve never understood why some people treat unfollowing an account like such a big deal, especially if you aren’t interacting with the content! Thank you for sharing!

    ~ Paige

    https://currentlylately.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 27, 2018 / 10:16 pm

      Thanks so much for reading! I don’t get why it’s a big deal either, if I wasn’t engaging with the content, unfollowing shouldn’t make a difference to your account! If anything, it would increase your engagement percentage!

      Jas xx

  31. August 28, 2018 / 9:18 am

    Yes girl! Totally agree with this little rant. I’ve started “clearing” out my list every few months just because I don’t like my timeline getting spammed with people and things I’m not interested in anymore. I love engaging with followers and mutuals, but it’s a two-way street!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 28, 2018 / 12:18 pm

      Exactly! There’s nothing wrong with having a clear out!

      Jas xx

  32. Emma
    August 28, 2018 / 2:20 pm

    Such a fab little rant Jasmine! People take things too seriously and a little of self clearing is always needed now and again.

    Emma – http://www.lifeofemmax.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 28, 2018 / 4:07 pm

      Awwww thank you, I’m glad that you enjoyed it!

      Jas xx

  33. August 28, 2018 / 10:39 pm

    Loved this post! I completely agree, if your timeline is full of people you don’t like then you’re not gonna engage with any of it and you’re not going to want to spend time on it. It’s so much healthier to just unfollow and leave it at that!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 29, 2018 / 10:32 am

      Exactly! It’s the healthier option!

      Jas xx

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