Blogging Makes Me Uncomfortable

Blogging Makes Me Uncomfortable

I admit, the title’s a little misleading, but “Some things to do with blogging make me uncomfortable” didn’t quite have the same ring to it.  If you’ve read my blog, you should know that I love blogging with all my heart.  However, like anything else in life, there are always some downsides.  In the year and a half I’ve done this, I’ve found specific things I love and things that feel weird.  Certain aspects of what’s required/I experience make me uncomfortable, so I thought I’d talk them through.

I just want to stress that this is not a hate post.  This is in no way targeting anyone else who does these things.  In fact, I rarely get annoyed when other people do them, because you do you.  However, I personally do/would find them uncomfortable, so no personal attacks, please.  Anyway, without further ado, here are some blogging things that make me uncomfortable.

 

Being Overly Nice

I often wonder whether I come across rude/stand-offish in the blogging community.  I’m polite, respectful, and if I like somebodys content, I will most definitely tell them.  There are bloggers that I absolutely love, and I show this by commenting on their posts, replying to their tweets, and sometimes sending them messages.  However, I’m aware that some of these connections aren’t full friend connections.  They definitely could be someday, and I’ve made a couple of incredibly close friends through blogging.  However, I’m not a massive public friendship person.

Don’t get me wrong, I will scream about my friends and their successes until I’m blue in the face.  I will comment heart eyes and fire emojis on their Instagram pictures until my hands go numb.  However, I’m not the kind to tweet “I love @thisfriend sooooo much” or “Meeting up with @thisperson today, I’m so excited.”  A lot of the blogging community seems to be like that, and I’m worried that I come off rude in comparison.

I don’t take issue with others doing it, and if someone did it to me I would see it as nothing but nice.  However, I’ve just never been that kind of person.  I was never the person to change their BBM name to +friend if I was hanging out with someone.  I was never the one to shout from the rooftops if I was round somebodys house.  For me to get on board with that now would seem fake to me, because that’s not my personality.  I love and treasure my friends and connections I’ve made, but I’m more of a person to private message you that I had a fun time than tweet about it.

Sharing My Successes

Sometimes I’ll get an amazing, “pinch me” opportunity and all I want to do is jump and scream like an idiot.  I’ll go to tweet it or message my friends about it and then… I stop myself.  I mean no malicious intent by it at all, and I genuinely just want to squeal about it.  However, I worry that, to my friends or online, it comes across as bragging.  I’ve seen the occasional indirect or noticed the same people never congratulating me in the past.  There’s nothing wrong with that, because everyone is entitled to do what they want to do.  However, my over thinking brain makes me think that I’m just annoying everyone, so I choose not to talk about most things now.

Asking for Followers

I see a lot of “I am 100 tweets away from this milestone, help me get there” tweets and honestly, they seem quite affective.  People who tweet them seem to grow quite quickly, and it’s hard not to compare the growth.  However, that again, just isn’t me.  

I wrote in one of my recent posts that I find scheduling promotion hard, and I suppose that this is in the same vein.  With following counts I find that if I’m meant to grow, I’ll grow.  I’ll sometimes partake in threads and trains so that I can be discovered by more people, but that’s as artificial as I go.  I like to curate things organically, I don’t want to ask for another 100 followers every few weeks.  Again, (This is becoming repetitive, but the last thing I want is drama), I take no issue with others doing it.  Just for me, it doesn’t feel right.

Tweeting Anything Remotely Controversial

I rarely even mention blogger drama, because I don’t like to get involved at all.  However, a lot of the time I’m so worried about saying or doing anything remotely disagreeable, due to witch hunts and cancel culture.  I’ve found that I never seem to follow the people who create drama, and so don’t really see it from the source.  Therefore, sometimes I’ll like a Tweet that I agree with, and later find out that it was an indirect to some drama, so I have to panic unlike it before I get sucked in too.

It’s the internet.  People are going to have differing opinions and arguments.  However, it seems that these things always start between 2 people and end up involving 20.  You like a tweet, you talk to the wrong person and suddenly you’re hated too.  I’ve been lucky enough to avoid it all completely to this point.  However, I’ve seen how quickly hate brews and things escalate.  Sometimes I feel uncomfortable about what I tweet/blog about in fear someone will be offended.

It’s gotten to the point where I now private message people just to let them know I support them.  Because, if I dare tweet them it, I’m a part of the drama too.

The Word “Goodies”

This isn’t anything super serious, and again, please don’t be offended if you use the word.  It just makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable, that’s honestly just a me thing.  It gets to me in the same way that the word “holibobs” gets to me.

 

And there you have it, a few things that make me feel uncomfortable when it comes to blogging.  Obviously this isn’t throwing shade at anybody, they’re things that I’ve noticed for a while.  In all honesty, this is more some free therapy/exploration for me, and I wanted to see if anybody agreed with any of them.

Let me know what you think, but please be respectful in the comments!  The last thing I want to do is incite hate/name calling.

Lots of love,

Jas xx

 

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  1. August 30, 2018 / 1:06 pm

    I love how honest you are! I really get the tweeting anything controversial one – I get so worried now as people can take things the wrong way so easily it’s like treading on eggshells! You made me laugh with the goodies one! x

    charlotterick.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 2:18 pm

      Awww thank you, I’m glad the last one made you laugh, thought I’d end with something a little more light hearted!

      Jas xx

  2. August 30, 2018 / 3:44 pm

    First, what’s a holibob?

    Second, I avoid controversy at all costs! I just don’t want to invite negativity into my life. Plus, I can often relate/empathize with either side – so best to just stay out of it, lol.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:32 pm

      Haha a holibob is a slang word that people sometimes use instead of the word holiday, I don’t know why it gets to me but it does! Yeah, I agree, it’s best to stay out of all drama.

      Jas xx

  3. August 30, 2018 / 5:13 pm

    I agree with a lot of this, especially the part about asking for followers. I shouldn’t be guilted into following you or helping you get followers just so you can reach goals. Considering how often it’s said that “numbers don’t matter!” Twitter sure seems to prove otherwise…

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 6:19 pm

      Glad you agree!

      Jas xx

  4. August 30, 2018 / 5:44 pm

    I love the honesty and 100% respect your opinions on this matter! I find a few things quite ‘cringe’ in the blogging world but i just stay away from those aspects!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 6:24 pm

      Thank you Ellie! I try to stay away from aspects I find cringe too

      Jas xx

  5. August 30, 2018 / 8:04 pm

    I love this post and definitely relate to the feeling like you can’t tweet anything controversial- not that I’ve let that stop me, I think some things are too important not to address!

    Soph – https://sophhearts.com x

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:03 pm

      Yeah, I’m getting better at being slightly more outspoken – hence this post!

      Jas xx

  6. August 30, 2018 / 8:13 pm

    I have to admit I am guilty of using the word goodies 😂 but I never ever said it before I started blogging! I think it might be one of those words that you just pick up and start using because everyone else in the blogging community does

    Tish | http://www.thesundaydiary.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:06 pm

      Loool there’s absolutely nothing wrong with using the word goodies! Like I said, it’s a personal thing for me! I do think it definitely catches on once you start blogging – I’m guilty of picking up words like “hun” and “lovely” since I started!

      Jas xx

  7. August 30, 2018 / 8:16 pm

    I feel like I ghostwrote this post! I feel the EXACT same way! Sometimes I point out I’m only a few followers away from a milestone or try and schedule my posts but honestly it feels like a lot of work. I’ve also written quite a few “moan-y” posts and it feels like in this community everyone is always super happy and positive which is totally not me haha.

    Thanks for this honest post!

    Hannah | https://thegiraffeslifeblog.wordpress.com/

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:12 pm

      Yeah, I don’t think I’d really have an issue pointing out being X followers away from a big milestone – I’m sure I’ve done it before, it’s mainly the constant posting every hundred that makes me uncomfortable! I’m so glad that you relate, it’s honestly so much better just being ourselves, even if that’s not positive all the time!

      Jas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk

  8. August 30, 2018 / 8:42 pm

    I absolutely love how honest you are! It’s really refreshing to read a post like this – definitely one I’ve not seen before. Thank you so much for sharing Jasmine!

    Ellie | http://www.ellieblakeney.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:13 pm

      Awww thank you so much!

      Jas xx

  9. August 30, 2018 / 8:45 pm

    I love this post. It’s so honest especially about sharing your successes. Idk why we always feel like people are silently judging but we do have a right to celebrate our victories no matter how small. I have just come across your page and I will definitely be subscribing.

    much love,

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:13 pm

      Yeah, I’m trying to get way better at sharing my successes! And thank you so much for subscribing, I hope you enjoy all future posts!

      Jas xx

  10. August 30, 2018 / 8:53 pm

    I agree with the fact that some bloggers seem overly nice. Like I wonder how much of that is real and how much is put on for the twitterverse?

    However I am one to ‘beg’ for extra views or followers. Girls gotta do… and all that. ☺️

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:17 pm

      I totally respect people that do ask for followers, we all grow in any way that we can! I just don’t have the confidence/want for it yet 🙂 I’m sure there are some bloggers that are really lovely and genuinely nice, it just wouldn’t be me!

      Jas xx

  11. August 30, 2018 / 8:58 pm

    I love your honesty in this post! I think we all have something that we find uncomfortable in the blogging world!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:18 pm

      Thank you!

      Jas xx

  12. August 30, 2018 / 9:10 pm

    I totally agree with the controversial thing, I literally stay completely out of drama as much as I possibly can. It makes my anxiety hit the roof if I’m slightly involved in any sort of argument with anyone so the thought of having a community of online people after me would break me! As for the first point, I’m definitely one of those people who compliments anyone and everyone but it’s all genuine! I love sharing the love and lifting other people up but I totally get that other people find it uncomfortable to, too!
    Alice Xx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:20 pm

      Yeah, I honestly admire how nice you are! It comes across as amazingly genuine and supportive! I don’t have any issue with people that do compliment anyone and everyone, and whenever I do show love to people, it is genuine! However, I approach it in a different way because I wouldn’t be true to me if I didn’t. It mainly makes me uncomfortable, because I worry that others think I’m not a nice person because I’m not as open about it!

      Jas xx

  13. August 30, 2018 / 9:13 pm

    I completely understand all of these, especially talking about controversial topics. I suppose with the type of person I am, I just don’t like getting negative attention, but everyone has their own opinions with the right to share them! Great post!

    Paige x
    https://paigesummerx.wordpress.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:21 pm

      Thank you so much, I’m glad you could relate!

      Jas xx

  14. August 30, 2018 / 9:18 pm

    This is such a great, honest post. It’s so relatable. I also get a bit awkward about sharing my blogging success online as it can come across bragging, but I think the blogging community is very supportive and they all do it!

    Eve | http://www.evemorganinteriors.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:22 pm

      Thank you! Yeah, I’m slowly getting better at sharing my successes!

      Jas xx

  15. August 30, 2018 / 9:32 pm

    I am always worried about inadvertently offending people on my blog! I always delete/rewrite anything that could be even vaguely misinterpreted because I hate confrontation and drama. Similarly, I rarely tweet for fear that I might end up saying the wrong thing!!

    I also have an over-thinking brain and it’s a real pain, but you should definitely share your successes! I think you’ll actually find that most people will be genuinely pleased for you. This is a really brave and honest post to write – well done!

    Leah | http://www.mybellyful.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 9:38 pm

      Haha I reworded and reconsidered uploading this post so many times because I was worried that somebody would take it the wrong way! It seems like it’s impossible for people to make a mistake without everybody attacking them and it’s a lot of stress, so I’ve been very impressed with how well this post has been received!

      Thank you, I’m trying to make more of an effort with sharing my successes at the moment. I just know that for me, it’s going to be a work in progress 🙂

      Jas xx | https://thoughtsfromjasmine.co.uk

      • August 30, 2018 / 9:42 pm

        I think you’ve been brave enough to say what most of us are thinking, but are too nervous to post!!

        • thoughtsfromjasmine
          Author
          August 30, 2018 / 9:42 pm

          Awww that’s reassuring to hear! Honestly, I’m so happy with how many people have been able to relate!

  16. August 30, 2018 / 9:58 pm

    Jas, this is an amazing post and100% honest. I try so much to stay out of drama not many people will agree with you, and the thought of having the whole blog world coming after is want i don’t think I can handle yet.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      September 2, 2018 / 7:52 pm

      Yeah, I try to stay out too for that exact reason!

      Jas xx

  17. August 30, 2018 / 10:25 pm

    I agree with being overly nice. I feel like being online has made me become a bit like that and I hate it because that’s not me at all. I’m not one to share my successful moments much either. I feel quite uncomfortable with a lot of blogging related things now I’m thinking about it. I stay away from drama but I don’t really mind being controversial about something bigger. Great post! x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 11:21 pm

      Yeah, it wasn’t until I started thinking about it recently, that I realised how many blogging things make me uncomfortable, it’s weird isn’t it! Yeah, I feel like I’m better at being contraversial about bigger things that I’m very passionate about! Thank you so much for your lovely comment!

      Jas xx

  18. August 30, 2018 / 10:27 pm

    I totally understand where you are coming from, there are something things that bloggers can do that aren’t for everyone. It’s great that you feel you can openly admit that these things aren’t for you – I think honesty, especially in blogging, is great!

    Beka | http://www.bekadaisies.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 30, 2018 / 11:22 pm

      Thank you so much! Yeah, I also believe that honesty is great!

      Jas xx

  19. amy3harris
    August 31, 2018 / 12:11 am

    I love how honest this post is and how you explore points that other bloggers haven’t mentioned before. I’m also the same when it comes to successes and telling people what I’ve achieved. I don’t want people to think that I’m showing off or that I’m bragging so a lot of the time I’ll keep it to myself or I’ll tell my mum and dad because they won’t misunderstand my intentions and will be proud. Great topic to discuss and definitely has me thinking ❤

    Amy x | fleurdubelle.blogspot.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 12:32 am

      Awww thank you! I usually tell my parents too!

      Jas xx

  20. August 31, 2018 / 2:30 am

    This is such a great post, and I can definitely relate to a lot of what you said! I feel the same way about asking for followers. I participate in trains and threads sometimes too, but I feel too uncomfortable about the idea of asking for them in a tweet!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 4:09 pm

      Yeah, it’s a weird thing isn’t! Like contructing a tweet asking for them makes me feel weird!

      Jas xx

  21. August 31, 2018 / 4:54 pm

    I say “you do you” because nobody else can! I do relate to a lot of what you’ve said. I find some of the things that people do feel a bit fake – those same people who are saying how much they love their new best friend are the next minute talking about that person behind their back, and the drama wears me out! Or in other words, I don’t care enough to care. I’d rather not be involved in all of that stuff. I don’t ask for followers either, but am happy to promote people whose content I love. In terms of controversial things though, I’m happy to put my ideas out there. Not everyone’s going to agree with them, and that’s ok. Some people will like me. Others won’t – especially because I can be a bit direct at times! And that’s ok – those who do will at least know what I stand for. There can be so much pressure in the blogging community, but please don’t let the haters or the fear of social media drama make you not want to say what you think.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      September 2, 2018 / 7:51 pm

      Sounds like you’ve got the right idea! I’m trying not to let them,

      Jas xx

  22. August 31, 2018 / 8:12 pm

    Ooof I totally agree with a lot of these! There seem to be more and more things everyday that one is *supposed to do* as a blogger, and a lot of them just don’t feel right for me either! But trying to be authentic always feels better than any statistic number – I’ve made peace with it! But it’s always nice to see other people sharing similar frustrations!

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 8:17 pm

      Ahh I’m glad that you could relate! I felt very alone in all of this, and I wanted to see if anybody else felt it too. I’m overwhelmed with the response!

      Jas xx

  23. August 31, 2018 / 8:44 pm

    Ha ha, I’m glad I’m not the only one who can’t stand the word holibobs! It really makes me cringe! I also stay out of blogging drama, it’s not worth it and it’s usually something that’s been escalated and blown out of proportion. A few days later it’s all over again. Always enjoy reading your posts Jas, they are so honest and relatable <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 8:48 pm

      Awww thank you so much Bexa, I’m really happy that you enjoy reading them!

      Jas xx

  24. August 31, 2018 / 8:50 pm

    I totally get want you mean about not wanting to come across at ‘bragging’. Sometimes when you get a super cool email you just want to tell your pals and be all excited as you’ve worked so hard but you don’t want to appear to be showing off etc, i guess if they are really your pals they will support you as they’ll know it’s something you love doing so getting an email from a cool brand is a big achievement x

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 8:56 pm

      Yeah, I’m slowly getting better at it, but it’s definitely taken some time!

      Jas xx

  25. August 31, 2018 / 9:24 pm

    I totally agree with the tweeting controversial topics or blogger/twitter drama. I would rather stay out of it all, there is so much hate and abuse that can come off the back of it. Might come across as ‘sitting on the fence’ but that’s where I would prefer to be haha!
    I also get the ‘bragging’ bit, its so hard to blow your own trumpet sometimes, even when you truly want to!

    Great post 🙂

    Aimsy xoxo

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 9:27 pm

      Thank you! Yeah, I always feel like getting involved ends up doing more harm than good!

      Jas xx

  26. August 31, 2018 / 9:26 pm

    Great post, refreshingly honest. I have to agree with the point about getting more followers. I’m fairly new to blogging and my growth has been sloooooow. I see so many tweets about the numbers not mattering, yet a few tweets down the line you then see the same people pushing to reach a “goal” of say, 500 followers, 1000 page views or similar. It kind of goes against what was said earlier, so that’s always confused me a tad to be honest! Nothing wrong with wanting more followers, but why make out it’s no big deal when it obviously is to you? Xx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 9:36 pm

      Yeah, I’m all for people doing what they went, but I totally understand that it can be confusing!

      Jas xx

  27. August 31, 2018 / 9:33 pm

    wow I relate to this so much! I started blogging this summer and I still feel a bit out of place sometimes in the blogging community, because – just like you – I don’t seem to have the same “personality” as some bloggers and I wonder if that seems rude at times. Really interesting post. I do think it is mostly in our heads to be honest, as long as you’re respectful I don’t really think there’s a problems, but at times it is easy to compare.

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 9:37 pm

      Yeah, it probably is mostly in our heads! Thank you so much for reading <3

      Jas xx

  28. August 31, 2018 / 9:41 pm

    I feel very much the same as you – I’ve only got a handful of followers, but to me that is great. It is more than I’ve ever could dream of since starting to blog. I love your post as I think there are many of us that feels the same way.

    Annelize.xx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      August 31, 2018 / 9:43 pm

      Yeah, it’s been really refreshing to see how many people agree, as I thought that it was just me! Good luck with growing your blog!

      Jas xx

  29. September 1, 2018 / 5:15 am

    Even though there are things we love (such as blogging), there are some downsides. It’s a bummer when there are other bloggers who can’t bother to return the courtesy with you. I think if you’re supportive, you shouldn’t be seen as rude at all!! You’re on fire with the support. It’s great to share your success as well. I mean there’s enough to pass around. We all should be able to talk about our accomplishments. Oh man, writing about something controversial can start a war @__@. It’s a bummer because we should be able to talk about whatever we think about – as long as it doesn’t involve violence. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      September 1, 2018 / 2:45 pm

      Thank you so much for your lovely comment, I’m really glad that you could understand where I was coming from! And yeah, I try to show support where I can!

      Jas xx

  30. September 1, 2018 / 12:18 pm

    EW “goodies” makes me cringe so much too. It is so important to support other bloggers and be nice to them, but sometimes I see things and it just looks so forced and fake! I hardly ever see anything controversial which I like because I probably wouldn’t be able to stop myself from getting involved if it is something I massively disagree with! Great post!xx

    • thoughtsfromjasmine
      Author
      September 1, 2018 / 2:50 pm

      Omg I’m glad it’s not just be who gets the whole “goodies” thing! Yeah, I feel the same about some things coming across forced and fake! That’s why it occasionally makes me uncomfortable. Thank you so much for your lovely comment!

      Jas xx

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