I admit, the title’s a little misleading, but “Some things to do with blogging make me uncomfortable” didn’t quite have the same ring to it. If you’ve read my blog, you should know that I love blogging with all my heart. However, like anything else in life, there are always some downsides. In the year and a half I’ve done this, I’ve found specific things I love and things that feel weird. Certain aspects of what’s required/I experience make me uncomfortable, so I thought I’d talk them through.
I just want to stress that this is not a hate post. This is in no way targeting anyone else who does these things. In fact, I rarely get annoyed when other people do them, because you do you. However, I personally do/would find them uncomfortable, so no personal attacks, please. Anyway, without further ado, here are some blogging things that make me uncomfortable.
Being Overly Nice
I often wonder whether I come across rude/stand-offish in the blogging community. I’m polite, respectful, and if I like somebodys content, I will most definitely tell them. There are bloggers that I absolutely love, and I show this by commenting on their posts, replying to their tweets, and sometimes sending them messages. However, I’m aware that some of these connections aren’t full friend connections. They definitely could be someday, and I’ve made a couple of incredibly close friends through blogging. However, I’m not a massive public friendship person.
Don’t get me wrong, I will scream about my friends and their successes until I’m blue in the face. I will comment heart eyes and fire emojis on their Instagram pictures until my hands go numb. However, I’m not the kind to tweet “I love @thisfriend sooooo much” or “Meeting up with @thisperson today, I’m so excited.” A lot of the blogging community seems to be like that, and I’m worried that I come off rude in comparison.
I don’t take issue with others doing it, and if someone did it to me I would see it as nothing but nice. However, I’ve just never been that kind of person. I was never the person to change their BBM name to +friend if I was hanging out with someone. I was never the one to shout from the rooftops if I was round somebodys house. For me to get on board with that now would seem fake to me, because that’s not my personality. I love and treasure my friends and connections I’ve made, but I’m more of a person to private message you that I had a fun time than tweet about it.
Sharing My Successes
Sometimes I’ll get an amazing, “pinch me” opportunity and all I want to do is jump and scream like an idiot. I’ll go to tweet it or message my friends about it and then… I stop myself. I mean no malicious intent by it at all, and I genuinely just want to squeal about it. However, I worry that, to my friends or online, it comes across as bragging. I’ve seen the occasional indirect or noticed the same people never congratulating me in the past. There’s nothing wrong with that, because everyone is entitled to do what they want to do. However, my over thinking brain makes me think that I’m just annoying everyone, so I choose not to talk about most things now.
Asking for Followers
I see a lot of “I am 100 tweets away from this milestone, help me get there” tweets and honestly, they seem quite affective. People who tweet them seem to grow quite quickly, and it’s hard not to compare the growth. However, that again, just isn’t me.
I wrote in one of my recent posts that I find scheduling promotion hard, and I suppose that this is in the same vein. With following counts I find that if I’m meant to grow, I’ll grow. I’ll sometimes partake in threads and trains so that I can be discovered by more people, but that’s as artificial as I go. I like to curate things organically, I don’t want to ask for another 100 followers every few weeks. Again, (This is becoming repetitive, but the last thing I want is drama), I take no issue with others doing it. Just for me, it doesn’t feel right.
Tweeting Anything Remotely Controversial
I rarely even mention blogger drama, because I don’t like to get involved at all. However, a lot of the time I’m so worried about saying or doing anything remotely disagreeable, due to witch hunts and cancel culture. I’ve found that I never seem to follow the people who create drama, and so don’t really see it from the source. Therefore, sometimes I’ll like a Tweet that I agree with, and later find out that it was an indirect to some drama, so I have to panic unlike it before I get sucked in too.
It’s the internet. People are going to have differing opinions and arguments. However, it seems that these things always start between 2 people and end up involving 20. You like a tweet, you talk to the wrong person and suddenly you’re hated too. I’ve been lucky enough to avoid it all completely to this point. However, I’ve seen how quickly hate brews and things escalate. Sometimes I feel uncomfortable about what I tweet/blog about in fear someone will be offended.
It’s gotten to the point where I now private message people just to let them know I support them. Because, if I dare tweet them it, I’m a part of the drama too.
The Word “Goodies”
This isn’t anything super serious, and again, please don’t be offended if you use the word. It just makes me cringe and feel uncomfortable, that’s honestly just a me thing. It gets to me in the same way that the word “holibobs” gets to me.
And there you have it, a few things that make me feel uncomfortable when it comes to blogging. Obviously this isn’t throwing shade at anybody, they’re things that I’ve noticed for a while. In all honesty, this is more some free therapy/exploration for me, and I wanted to see if anybody agreed with any of them.
Let me know what you think, but please be respectful in the comments! The last thing I want to do is incite hate/name calling.
Lots of love,